Taking Time To Process Life Using the Traditions of DA

Reflections

Thought for today: Life is often chaotic.  We can suddenly discover that the people around us have changed and seem distant. The trajectory of life isn’t neat.  Sometimes it’s not time for the thing we want to happen.  Chaos happens instead.  Sometimes we need to change plans and manage the chaos around us. If we are willing to let go of who […]

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April 9, “Putting Our Needs First” Includes Our Need for Relationships

Thought for today: The Fifth Tool of DA  is about creating a spending plan that puts our needs first.  It doesn’t guarantee that our needs will always be met; it simply implies that our money will be allocated according to our needs as opposed to the needs of our creditors. This principle can apply to all of our plans, […]

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Bringing Balance to Relationships: “Detaching from Difficult Personalities”* and Still Letting People Know (Kindly) Where We Stand.

Clear communication is so important in effective relationship building.  Sometimes people need to know where we stand.  At other times, we need to let go of difficult personalities. Sometimes we need to detach emotionally with difficult situations.  Detaching from outcomes and lowering our expectations of others helps reduce our dependency on them.  On the other hand, […]

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“Desiderata”, Ideals that Inspire Peace

Let these words inspire you today. Meditation for Today (courtesy of Max Ehrmann, from his classic free verse, “Desiderata“*): “Desiderata Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; […]

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Where Is God? A Suggested Map To Finding Your Higher Power.

A friend calls out to us in anguish for help. Circumstances have brought him here in desperation. We listen attentively to the litany, fragments of a puzzle. Each block of the Mosaic. Page after page, he pours out grief over injustices, some imagined, some real. Finally, the exact nature of wrongs is acknowledged, and a […]

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Is it Time for a Courageous Conversation ™?

One member reflected on the one-month moratorium  he had arranged with his creditors, in writing, and the process of transforming these relationships: “During that first month in D.A. I detoxed from the negative effects of compulsive debt, overspending, and worry.  I needed the month to heal.  I had my hands full just not debting one day at […]

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