Reflections On Resentments

Reflections

Thought for today: Resentment is the re-feeling of old wounds – and it was our #1 problem.  It made us feel justified in lashing out at an unjust world in anger. A personal share: “Before Step Four, old resentments, fears and pride about my money issues ran my life. As a result, I often hurt those closest […]

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“How I Discovered the Answers to All My Problems”

Affirmations reach upward

Thought for today: What if there was a way to discover everything that was causing us problems with relationships?  Wouldn’t that be an incredible tool?  Enter Step Four… Step 4: “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” A personal share: “When I was ready to take Step Four I made the list just […]

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Why We Track Our Numbers – To The Penny!

"I feel so inadequate when I'm tracking my numbers, because I was never any good at math!"

Thought for today: If we are not tracking our numbers to the penny –  income, expenses, and savings –  it will be hard to get what other members have received from DA.  So we’ll need to first get honest with ourselves. Using Step 4, we can search for greater clarity about why we fight doing our […]

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Step 4’s Lessons: The Bedrock of Financial and Spiritual Recovery

"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves"

Thought for today: When we were debting, life was full of anxiety.  Now, if we want to clear the emotional wreckage of the past, we need to take a fearless moral inventory.   We need to  carefully consider the recurring themes in our lives that have caused emotionally disruption.  When we look inside in this new way, it helps our outer […]

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Expectations: Resentments In Training Wheels

Our common welfare depends on DA unity

Thought for today: When we expect others to behave a certain way, it sets us up for anger.  They have free will, and they resent being manipulated. Expectations and resentment lead us down a rabbit hole that brings us to debt and despair.  We need to constantly be on guard for attempts to control others. DA Step 4: […]

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The Ultimate Goal of Step 4

The Highway

Thought for today: We all seek prestige at times.  Everyone needs to be appreciated. For compulsive debtors, the natural instincts run wild.  “Instincts on rampage ball at investigation,” as Bill W. wrote in Step 4.  We need to investigate these instincts, and put them back in perspective.  Otherwise, we will likely debt again. DA Step […]

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How the Moral Inventory in Step 4 Is a Bridge to Prosperity

Performing in the City

Thought for today: When we have worked through the process of finding a Higher Power of our understanding, we have made great progress.  With the help of this Power, we will find the strength to look inside ourselves. We will look closely at what motivates us, and be willing to work through any denial.  We become […]

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Getting a 10,000 Foot View of How We Fit In With The World

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Thought for today: Taking a fearless moral inventory is essential to getting solvent.   It takes courage, but by the time we’re through processing it, we get a  “10,000 foot view” of how we fit in to the rest of the world. A member shares: “The members of my group told me that if I wanted to get past my […]

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“What Should I Do With My Anger At Work?”

Thought for today: When taking an inventory of character defects, “Resentment is the ‘number one’ offender.” says the book, “Alcoholics Anonymous”.  So too with compulsive debtors! “[Resentment] destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. […]

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When Is Pride a Character Defect?

Thought for today: The word “pride” means “deep satisfaction in our own achievements, or those of others”.  It can separate “us” from “them”, making “us” come out better and “them”, worse off.  In this sense, “put down” pride is destructive, and the extent to which we entertain it, we destroy peace. A member shares: “I used to believe […]

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