Truth and Solvency

Thought for today: It’s been said that “you’re as sick as your secrets”.   Secrets have a way of taking energy from us, while the truth generally allows us to grow in energy. When secrets are many, we risk tripping over them, like clutter in a room.  We dare not talk about our problems in public.  We hide […]

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Where is My Higher Power In This?

Thought for today: When it comes to the disease of compulsive debting, there are no “unique” stories.  The same “debt-a-log” gets told over and over in the rooms of DA; only the names and faces change. In this sense, the disease is boring; it always blinds us to light, leaving us to whither, get angry, lash out or nash in […]

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How Sharing Honestly With the Right Person In Step 5 Helps

Thought for today: Being honest takes a deliberate effort.  We need to acknowledge our inner thoughts and share them transparently with another human being. Step Five asks us to bring the lessons learned from the Fourth Step into our relationship with another human being, with our Higher Power, and with ourselves.  The relationship between all three […]

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How to Deal With Our Feelings From Step 5

Thought for today: Step 5 talks about a mysterious barrier between us and the people we meet.  We debtors delude those around us almost as much as we delude ourselves. DA Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. When we finally took an inventory of ourselves, […]

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Getting a 10,000 Foot View of How We Fit In With The World

Thought for today: Taking a fearless moral inventory is essential to getting solvent.   It takes courage, but by the time we’re through processing it, we get a  “10,000 foot view” of how we fit in to the rest of the world. A member shares: “The members of my group told me that if I wanted to get past my […]

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Courage to Change

Thought for today: A fearless personal inventory takes courage.  During it we often discover that the motive for our actions is fear of losing something: We fear not getting enough money, sex, love, admiration of friends, society’s praises, achievement, and so on. Fear leads to character defects of pride, anger, lust, envy, laziness, greed and gluttony. We are […]

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“How Do I Live Without Debting?”

Thought for today: Living with the insanity of overspending, under earning, and taking on unsecured debt became a habit for most of us before we found the program of recovery.  We couldn’t imagine any other way except to debt.  It made sense to us. The pattern of debting became ingrained in us to a point where […]

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May 3, Admitting the Exact Nature of Our Wrongs (Step #5)

Thought for today: “Restless, irritable, and discontent” were normal feelings for many of us before DA.  What we did was lash out and blame everyone around us, including those closest to us. We argued with our spouse about money.  We blamed the kids for being kids.  Our employer wasn’t paying enough.  Luck had us down. […]

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Step 5: The Beginning of the End of Isolation

Thought for today: They say you are as sick as your secrets. We were so alone, our secrets were many.  No one knows how many of us hid our true financial situation from immediate family members who had a right to know. Then we took Step 5: “Admitted to God, ourselves and another human being […]

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Where Is God? A Suggested Map To Finding Your Higher Power.

A friend calls out to us in anguish for help. Circumstances have brought him here in desperation. We listen attentively to the litany, fragments of a puzzle. Each block of the Mosaic. Page after page, he pours out grief over injustices, some imagined, some real. Finally, the exact nature of wrongs is acknowledged, and a […]

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