3 Types of Amends In Step 9 That Can Heal Past Wounds

Our common welfare depends on DA unity

Thought for today: It’s embarrassing to have to admit when we are wrong.  It blows our image of ourselves.  But better to suffer a little embarrassment if it helps maintain our solvency and serenity in the long run. DA Step 9: 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would […]

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Preparing to Make Peace With Step 8

The world around us is full of wonder if we stop to see it.

Thought for today: We come to DA to find answers to our debts.  We look for a quick fix.   They tell us to keep track of our expenses and earnings.  Not the fix we were hoping for, but OK, we’ll go along with the idea, because we’ve exhausted the alternatives. We find that the answer […]

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Expectations: Resentments In Training Wheels

Our common welfare depends on DA unity

Thought for today: When we expect others to behave a certain way, it sets us up for anger.  They have free will, and they resent being manipulated. Expectations and resentment lead us down a rabbit hole that brings us to debt and despair.  We need to constantly be on guard for attempts to control others. DA Step 4: […]

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Step 8, and the Willingness to Make Amends

Healing starts when we begin believing there is something to hope for.

Thought for today: When we talk about harms done as compulsive debtors, we should probably put ourselves at the top of the list of those affected.  Years of compulsive debting can leave us feeling ashamed, scared, and frustrated.  The debts we incurred may take time to sort out. Our creditors suffered, too.  They expected to be paid on […]

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Getting a 10,000 Foot View of How We Fit In With The World

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Thought for today: Taking a fearless moral inventory is essential to getting solvent.   It takes courage, but by the time we’re through processing it, we get a  “10,000 foot view” of how we fit in to the rest of the world. A member shares: “The members of my group told me that if I wanted to get past my […]

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Disease And Recovery

Thought for today: If we are to live a life of abundance, we need emotional maturity.  But self-centered pride and fear can keep you in the dark. We need to look at our relationships.  We need to honestly look at our reactions to life, and to admit the times when we were wrong. Life is simpler when we have the courage to […]

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January 31, Step Eight: Becoming Ready To Make Amends

Thought for today: We make a list of people we have harmed in step eight, and become willing to make amends to them all. Whether we actually make amends or not is irrelevant at this point. Our willingness is what matters in this step. We start by reviewing our fourth step, where we discovered our […]

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January 30, Why Do Step Eight?

Step eight is: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. By now we should have identified our shortcomings and their impact in our lives. If we aren’t ready for this step, we can go back over the preceding steps (starting with step 1) to […]

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