Thought for today: When we were debting, life seemed like a race we were always losing. We made decisions about money emotionally, out of fear, lust, jealousy, or big-shotism. At a restaurant, volunteering: “Let me get that bill – it’s on me!”. At the store: “I’ve got to have that ______!” When loaning a friend money: “Don’t worry […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Money is neither good nor bad. It just is. It’s a tool – a means to an end. Nothing more. It’s people who attach anxiety to it. Money doesn’t think. Signpost #7 (of compulsive debting) “Living in chaos and drama around money: Using one credit card to pay another; bouncing checks; always having a […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Credit cards are a dubious luxury of “normal people” – but they aren’t an essential ingredient for being “grown up”! A member shares: “The credit card companies make these incredibly attractive terms to get us started, and it feels like magic! Out of nowhere, money is there for anything we want” ” Flashy advertisements, accumulating points […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Before DA, many of us neglected ourselves. Depressed and isolated, we simply gave up the basic things “normal people” did automatically. A member shares: “I struggled to show up for work on time and put in an honest day’s work. I had so much emotional pain before even getting up in the morning. […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Do I return a complement with the price tag quote? Do I regret buying something soon after you bring the merchandise home? After the newness wears off, is there “buyer’s remorse”, lost receipts, and vagueness like a hangover? Compulsive shopping, especially when using credit cards to pay for it, happens quickly in […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: One DA member vividly recalls how they stopped saving when their parents “borrowed” their piggy bank savings at age seven to put food on the table one day. The weeks went by and the money was never returned or even spoke about again. The family hid this and other shames for years, […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: The compulsion to debt is a symptom of a deeper problem: the need to be beholden to the other. Debtors accumulate guilt. Unconsciously, we seek distraction from ourselves. We must squelch the illusion that “things equal love”, or that we are perpetually lacking some thing that would make us feel complete. No longer […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Have you ever felt clueless about where your money was going? Have you ever said these things to out loud or to yourself? “You’ve got to be kidding me! $35 for being one day late?” “You mean to tell me I get charged for every ;$&@@ mile over the lease allowance?” “You […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Prosperity doesn’t come from credit cards. It comes when we increase our earning power, and by the decisions we make that matter most. We need to make decisions that change our attitude about money, credit, and living within our means… A personal share: “I started to feel abundant way before I experienced […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: If we make meetings for a while, we will eventually see people come and go. Some of them will come back years later, with more debt than ever. Others may never come back. Why is that? Reason #1: Debtors Anonymous isn’t a place to window shop for financial advice. It’s different from anything else. DA’s not going to […]
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