Thought for today: Debtors tend to either be anorexic with spending, or over-indulging, or both. These extremes can leave them unsteady and miserable. Their chances are better if they envision their goals, and develop a clear Spending Plan and Action Plan. A member shares: “After years of rejection, I sometimes feel stuck in negative or depressed thinking,” […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: One of the signs of compulsive debting is “unwarranted inhibition and embarrassment” around normal discussions of money. A false sense of shame can inhibit our growth. We need to counteract these feelings by remembering to have dignity, however humble our finances. Our money is important to focus from time to time with an advisor. A member shares: […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: DA helps compulsive debtors get better. It does this when members help other members. DA also has service workers, who take care of administrative and legal requirements of operating a Non-Profit Organization. A member shares: “In DA, we have a clear division of labor. Members share their experience, strength and hope. We share our numbers with our Pressure […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: The word “pride” means “deep satisfaction in our own achievements, or those of others”. It can separate “us” from “them”, making “us” come out better and “them”, worse off. In this sense, “put down” pride is destructive, and the extent to which we entertain it, we destroy peace. A member shares: “I used to believe […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Who says we can’t negotiate our own debts? People who mean well will sometimes encourage an “easier, softer way”, but they don’t have to live with the punch-drunk feelings left from exorbitant repayment plans. Others will caution against a bad credit rating, but do they know all the facts of our debting? […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Fear kept many of us from getting help with money problems. It was depressing to run out of money all the time, and be berated about it. Victimized by debt consolidation scams, nasty creditors, and condemning family members, we grew to not trust anyone anymore – least of all ourselves! We thought we were the only […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: There are times when we need to take on extra work to increase our income and make a workable Spending Plan. After some time in recovery from compulsive debting, and after getting a prudent reserve, we can consider letting go of the extra work. When the time is right,we can let go of the extra […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Compulsive debtors have distorted thinking about money. They can feel ashamed about this, which leads to isolation that keeps them from getting help. A member shares: “I used to beat myself up when I had anxiety about money (which was always). I thought it was a sign that I was weak-willed. That […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: This post is about getting away, but it’s not about particular destinations. (There are plenty of articles about those things.) It’s about deciding to get away, and not spending a fortune to get there. Vacations, for those of us addicted to overwork and/or underearning, can get overlooked or avoided. But this can change. The spectrum of distorted thinking runs from “anorexic” (never […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: This post is about getting away, but it’s not about particular destinations. (There are plenty of articles about those things.) It’s about deciding to get away, and not spending a fortune to get there. Vacations, for those of us addicted to overwork and/or underearning, can get overlooked or avoided. But this can change. The spectrum of distorted thinking runs from “anorexic” (never […]
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