Thought for today: When we are angry, we are living in the past. When we are afraid, we are living in the future. Frustration hits when we are not living in the present. We need to creatively find our way back. This is where Steps Four and Ten can help. A member shares: “I had no […]
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Thought for today: Life is often chaotic. We can suddenly discover that the people around us have changed and seem distant. The trajectory of life isn’t neat. Sometimes it’s not time for the thing we want to happen. Chaos happens instead. Sometimes we need to change plans and manage the chaos around us. If we are willing to let go of who […]
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Thought for today: Compulsive debtors can have the best intentions before they get to DA. They are sometimes “double winners” – members of other Twelve Step fellowships before they get here, who are actively working their programs. Some are church regularly to seek spiritual renewal. Others are active members of civic communities, or parents struggling to feed their children. The disease […]
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Thought for today: When debt accumulates, it is a growing distraction. All areas of life suffer – home, sleep, and especially work. Our daily work requires focus. We must commit ourselves to it. But unsecured debt has a way of requiring our undivided attention… DA Question 2: Does the pressure of your debts distract you from your […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: There is a famous saying that “No man is an island”. In families, businesses and groups we are not alone. Some people seem to carry toxic feelings around with them all the time, and we feel powerless to deal with or help them. “…They seem to have been born that way…. but many of them do recover […]
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Thought for today: Compulsive debting doesn’t just affect us, it affects our family too. Many of us spent in excess on unnecessary items, with little left for family needs. Debting is a family disease. That’s why the first question to ask ourselves when we consider whether we are a debtor is “Are your debts making […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Greed and envy work against our recovery. They tell us that we don’t have enough – that life is a “zero-sum game” in which we must claw our way to the top, taking what we can. This limited thinking leads to compulsive debting, gossip, stealing, manipulation and many other defects of character. It proves that we […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: When taking an inventory of character defects, “Resentment is the ‘number one’ offender.” says the book, “Alcoholics Anonymous”. So too with compulsive debtors! “[Resentment] destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Sometimes when times get tough and our reserve funds take a hit, we can wind up getting stuck in fear. We’ll isolate from those closest to us, the very ones who need to know what’s going on. It’s important to be honest with ourselves and with others affected. Getting to a place of […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: After a recent meeting a newcomer asked “I’ve made my six meetings in two weeks, and I’ve decided DA is for me. Now what?” A member shares: At this point, an old-timer in the group spoke up, saying “It sounds like you’re ready to take certain steps in your recovery. Remember how […]
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