Thought for today: Vague, lacking confidence, confused, indecisive. When many of us come into DA, we feel bewildered. How did we get so off course? And how do we get back our lives? DA Promise 2: Clarity will replace vagueness. Confidence and intuition will replace confusion and chaos. We will live engaged lives, make decisions […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: If we are new to DA, we will want to get right into the program of recovery and give DA a chance to help us. There are a few things we can benefit from knowing right away, as we approach this new way of thinking about money. A member shares: “When I first came […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: A newcomer to DA asks, “Why should we hide who we are to outsiders when it comes to our membership in DA? Isn’t that dishonest? What do we have to hide?” An old-timer in DA responds, “It’s not that we are hiding from anyone, although personal anonymity ensures that what we share at meetings […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: We have learned in DA that there is abundance in our Higher Power if we are open to it. There is plenty of time, money and love for all of us. By the same token, we are better off with fewer more precious items – a more minimalistic lifestyle. Our quality of life […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: The Twelve Steps help us find a Spiritual Awakening. They are in the order they are in for a reason. For example, we need to “come to believe” before we can turn ourselves over to the power. But what does DA mean when it says we need to “turn our will and our lives over […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: When we talk about harms done as compulsive debtors, we should probably put ourselves at the top of the list of those affected. Years of compulsive debting can leave us feeling ashamed, scared, and frustrated. The debts we incurred may take time to sort out. Our creditors suffered, too. They expected to be paid on […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: A lot of people try controlled debting. They promise themselves that they will only debt using one card, such as a store card, and they will always pay the balance in full each month. And then they debt again. Debting is a relentless compulsion. If we start debting even a little, we will eventually debt like never […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: It’s tempting at times to take on the responsibilities of others in our lives, but it can cause stress in our lives in the process. If we live with someone who doesn’t help at home it can become a financial burden. If they spend compulsively, it can counteract all our good efforts at living within a Spending Plan. […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: The Twelve Steps are really a process of letting of our addiction to debt, under earn and/or overspend. That process involves three basic layers to this “surrender”: The first surrender is Step One, “We admitted we were powerless over debt—that our lives had become unmanageable.” We need to let go of the idea that […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Fear ran our lives. It consumed us. The mailbox, the telephone, email. All caused dread. When was the next creditor going to make us miserable? DA Promise 10: We will no longer fear the truth; we will move from hiding in denial to living in reality. A member shares: “Before DA, I was always […]
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