Thought for today: Resentment is the re-feeling of old wounds – and it was our #1 problem. It made us feel justified in lashing out at an unjust world in anger. A personal share: “Before Step Four, old resentments, fears and pride about my money issues ran my life. As a result, I often hurt those closest […]
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Thought for today: What if there was a way to discover everything that was causing us problems with relationships? Wouldn’t that be an incredible tool? Enter Step Four… Step 4: “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” A personal share: “When I was ready to take Step Four I made the list just […]
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Thought for today: When we expect others to behave a certain way, it sets us up for anger. They have free will, and they resent being manipulated. Expectations and resentment lead us down a rabbit hole that brings us to debt and despair. We need to constantly be on guard for attempts to control others. DA Step 4: […]
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Thought for today: When we have worked through the process of finding a Higher Power of our understanding, we have made great progress. With the help of this Power, we will find the strength to look inside ourselves. We will look closely at what motivates us, and be willing to work through any denial. We become […]
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Thought for today: Taking a fearless moral inventory is essential to getting solvent. It takes courage, but by the time we’re through processing it, we get a “10,000 foot view” of how we fit in to the rest of the world. A member shares: “The members of my group told me that if I wanted to get past my […]
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Thought for today: When we are angry, we are living in the past. When we are afraid, we are living in the future. Frustration hits when we are not living in the present. We need to creatively find our way back. This is where Steps Four and Ten can help. A member shares: “I had no […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: When taking an inventory of character defects, “Resentment is the ‘number one’ offender.” says the book, “Alcoholics Anonymous”. So too with compulsive debtors! “[Resentment] destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Those of us who are self-employed are sometimes obsessed with problem customers. We neglect preferable customers because we are fixing insignificant issues with the difficult ones. We need a healthy balance. BDA Tool 10 “We detach from difficult personalities and poor paying clients and put principles before personalities.” A member shares: “Letting go is hard for a […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: A fearless personal inventory takes courage. During it we often discover that the motive for our actions is fear of losing something: We fear not getting enough money, sex, love, admiration of friends, society’s praises, achievement, and so on. Fear leads to character defects of pride, anger, lust, envy, laziness, greed and gluttony. We are […]
Continue reading →Thought for today: Anger is the “dubious luxury” of normal people. Often anger can get out of proportion and lead us to overreact. Whenever we get angry we have the Twelve Steps to guide us to safety. We learn to process the root fear that torments us into lashing out. We learn to refrain from causing further damage […]
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